Be Present focused. It’s easy to get drawn back in the past, particularly when things trigger unpleasant memories. You have to discipline your mind and not allow unpleasant thoughts to steal the peace and joy in your present. When you find your mind drifting backward and causing you to experience negative emotions, begin to focus on where you are now and what you have to be thankful for.
Forgive. It bears repeating that forgiveness is not about the one being forgiven; it's really about you. When you forgive someone you aren’t saying what they did to you doesn’t matter. What you're saying is you won’t exert any more energy harboring anger, resentment, regret, or other painful emotions fueled by unforgiveness. You are taking your power back and not letting your emotions be controlled by someone else’s actions. You won't let your healing be contingent on someone's apology you may never get. Or, let it be based on their understanding of your pain; they may never be able to or care to.
It may not be fair, but while they may be responsible for your pain, you are responsible for your healing. When you are freed from unforgiveness, you can make room for joy and peace to fill your heart.